Salvage the Bones – Jesmyn Ward

ImageA hurricane is building over the Gulf of Mexico, threatening the coastal town of Bois Sauvage, Mississippi, and Esch’s father is growing concerned. A hard drinker, largely absent, he doesn’t show concern for much else. Esch and her three brothers are stocking food, but there isn’t much to save. Lately, Esch can’t keep down what food she gets; she’s fourteen and pregnant. Her brother Skeetah is sneaking scraps for his prized pitbull’s new litter, dying one by one in the dirt. Meanwhile, brothers Randall and Junior try to stake their claim in a family long on child’s play and short on parenting. As the twelve days that make up the novel’s framework yield to their dramatic conclusion, this unforgettable family—motherless children sacrificing for one another as they can, protecting and nurturing where love is scarce—pulls itself up to face another day.

When reading books about disasters that have really happened, whether they be natural occurrences or man-made, specifically those that have happened in recent history, I always start them with a feeling of apprehension. I am afraid of the story being over dramatized or obviously false or something. Just obviously fiction. Some might argue that I should read non-fiction about the certain topic, but it’s different. It’s hard to tell a story about something that most of your audience remembers or has some affiliation to– whether it’s through personal experience, hearing the experience of a friend, or reading the newspaper (or online news source, as it were).

With this all said, however, I felt as though Jesmyn Ward did a fantastic job at incorporating a disaster (note Katrina happened in 2005) into her story line. The book wasn’t about Katrina, but it let for a great backdrop and literary device. The hurricane, I think, really only made its presence known for about two chapters, but it was perfect that way. You were allowed to get to know the family, their problems, their neighbors, etc. etc. before adding the outside turmoil.

As it opens, you meet a family that is already somewhat… dysfuntional. Not in a Royal Tenenbaums way but more in a way of despair. If you were to ask the characters if they thought of themselves in this way, I would say they would deny it, but from someone looking in from the outside, there is a certain feeling of, well, dysfunction. The mother is dead, the father is a drunk, there is poverty, dog fighting, etc. etc. I suppose all our families have their dysfunctions, but we’ve learned to deal with those. Looking at someone else’s always lends itself to be more noticed, shall we say.

There are four siblings in total, but you read the story through the eyes of Esch, the only girl in the family. Esch is pregnant and the stabilizing force of the family. Esch has three brothers: Randall, Skeetah, and Junior. Randall is a basketball fanatic and the only sibling that really seems to want to get out of dodge, using basketball as his vehicle. Skeetah, who is closest to Esch, is the brother that understands dogs more than humans. I found him to be extremely frustrating for pretty much the whole novel. Finally there is little Junior. Junior is the youngest and still very dependent on the rest of his family.

Throughout the story, you see how their interactions, their hopes, dreams, and selfishness influence the rest of the family. It’s only a few weeks snippit of their lives, but it’s adequate enough to get a feeling for the family. To pick favorites, to hate some and love others. You see them go through adversity and come out of it, and you see what has changed within them and what hasn’t. The ending is good and ties up well, and I was happy for it. It really was a great first read of the year.

Just to mention a few topics that popped into my head but found no place up there, I was struck by Esch’s attitude towards sex. It was very odd to me. She didn’t really see it as most people do, or more specifically, most girls do. She was very nonchalant about it, but I wouldn’t peg her as an, excuse me for the term, slut. She just sort of saw it as something that happens, that needs to happen. I don’t want to say that she was oversexed, because I don’t think that’s it. I just think it’s something that wasn’t taboo to her. Just thoughts.

Next, I am totally new to the arena of dog fighting. I know absolutely nothing (nor do I really want to) about it aside from the fact that Michael Vick is tied to it. With that said, it was interesting and disturbing to read about. To see such a vicious game play out between these animals and their owners and yet to see absolute adoration and dedication in the character Skeetah to his dog. It wasn’t just dedication in the way of ownership but love and understanding. Random thoughts, keep on bubbling!

I would recommend it to those who like Southern lit and family dramas with a splash of dog fighting.

P.S. #1 : Thanks to Lu from Regular Rumination for sending me this for my birthday. You’re grrrreat, and I miss you!

P.S. #2 : Please excuse my popcorn writing! I am just trying to get back into this blogging thing ;)

Wordless Wednesday

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The Most Adorable Baby Eli and His Best Friend, My Slipper

The Return (I SWEAR!)

Oh hello there. It’s been a while, no? I have finally gotten myself together enough to (try) to make a (hopeful) triumphant return! Grad school, as many of you know, is a time suck, and truthfully, when I have free time, the last thing I want to do is read. In my free time, I generally look like this (aka not conducive to reading):

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But now I need to read! Free time, I have you! I’ve got the itch! I finished my first book of the year (yes! of the year! aside from textbooks, of course), last week. Salvage the Bones by Jesmyn Ward. I also had my first stay-up-all-night-to-finish-a-book experience of the year last night to finish Galore by Michael Crummey. I will of course be reviewing these shortly.

I have definitely jumped back into reading with a splash! I hope to do so with blogging as well as I’ve missed all y’all and the innumerable suggestions of books. I do ask of you this question, though:

What awesome new (or old!) books have I missed?? For what books do I need to get my butt to the Books-a-Million to purchase? What were your favorites of last year? This year? They don’t have to be new books, just awesome books! Tell me! Tell me! (PLEASE!)

Glad to be back, y’all. I’ll hopefully be back shortly with some review posts, some life posts, some picture posts, and some updated blog styles. Hope you have all been well as well. :) Missed you guys. Truly.

A discourse on my unfortunate leave from the blogosphere but also hopeful return (?)

Where has all the time gone? I had such high hopes for jumping right on back into the blogging world, but all those dreams were smashed when exams, Christmas, and general exhaustion kicked in. I just want to talk a little to just to get back into the swing of things. 

The last time I posted about a book was in October, and that was a truly half-assed attempt at a review. Before that, my last real posts were before my move and the start of grad school. I think that latter thing is really the biggest stopper to my blogging. It is amazing how much time it takes up! During undergrad, even during the hardest I-have-to-finish-my-40-page-research-for-tomorrrow-and-I-just-deleted-a-fourth-of-it parts, I was still able to write posts and visit y’alls blogs. It’s not that grad school is harder per se but more that it is certainly more time consuming and exhausting. I’d rather spend my time watching Netflix than reading and reading than blogging. I didn’t much get past that first step, to tell the truth. 

In general, it was just hard to organize myself to really have all that much free time aside for on weekends when all I wanted to do was HANG. With all this said, however, it was always in the back of my mind that I needed to get back into blogging/tweeting/goodreadsing. I needed to read posts and write posts and read, for goodness sake! I thought that if anything, I would begin again during my month long winter break, but it has taken until the last week of this break to even write up a post. I also thought I was going to read a ton over break– wrong — I only just finished one book. A 200-page book at that.

I truly miss it all! I was sad to see my 100 book goal go down in flames. I was super sad to not have participated in the RIP challenge as it is one of my favorites. I was also very sad to not have calculated all my New Years totals, etc. etc. as I just didn’t feel all too right in doing it. I also just have a general sadness in missing all the comraderie. All you wonderful blogger friends who give great advice, recommendations, and just generally put a smile on my face. I feel as though I abandoned it all. 

Of course school is super duper important, so I can’t just say ‘screw school! blogger 4 lyfe’, but I do want to make more of a conscious effort to be here. I feel as though I’ve missed so much! So many things going on in your lives. So many new, awesome books. So much drama, as there is wont to be. I also have a lot in my life that I would like to share with you! 

As a goal (a resolution, maybe?), I think over this next week I will try to catch up. I will try to catch up with you and have myself caught up with you. Maybe a post a day? A list of ten awesome things you should know? An amazing attempt at posting on all your blogs? It will be like a great return or something. And for real this time! I ain’t jokin, ladies and gents!

So, before I go on and on, let me ask you, what’s new? Any fantastic new books? Any fantastic new bloggers I should be aware of? Anything fantastic in your lives? Catch me up, people!

Adorable (Bookish) Video

So, I can’t figure out how to put this up as a forreal video, so I am just going to link to it : CLICK HERE FOR ADORABLE (BOOKISH) VIDEO. It really is very adorable. And has books. And is a little… riskay… for those of you who care.

Also, just wanted to say helloooooo. Life has taken over once again, so my posting has obviously gone out the window. I hope to be back soon with posting at least once a week, but I make no promises! I’ll try to post about what’s been going on (Voodoo Fest!), so look out for that this weekend. How are y’all doing?

Wordless Wednesday

New Orleans / Louisiana / 2011

Beautiful Boy : A Father’s Journey Through His Son’s Addiction – David Sheff

What had happened to my beautiful boy? To our family?What did I do wrong? Those are the wrenching questions that haunted every moment of David Sheff ’s journey through his son Nic’s addiction to drugs and tentative steps toward recovery. Before Nic Sheff became addicted to crystal meth, he was a charming boy, joyous and funny, a varsity athlete and honor student adored by his two younger siblings. After meth, he was a trembling wraith who lied, stole, and lived on the streets.David Sheff traces the first subtle warning signs: the denial, the 3 A.M. phone calls (is it Nic? the police? the hospital?), the rehabs.His preoccupation with Nic became an addiction in itself, and the obsessive worry and stress took a tremendous toll. But as a journalist, he instinctively researched every avenue of treatment that might save his son and refused to give up on Nic. Beautiful Boy is a fiercely candid memoir that brings immediacy to the emotional rollercoaster of loving a child who seems beyond help.

Books are a wonderful way to connect. You lend one out, you take one in, you learn read things you possibly wouldn’t have read otherwise. This one was lent to me by my roommate, and I think it was a success!

The book itself is the memoir of a father as he goes through the process of watching his son fall in and out of addiction. It’s an interesting perspective, to look at addiction from the outside. There is a lot of analyzation of cause, blame, and woulda-coulda-shoulda. To see the man try to figure out where his son’s addiction came from, stemmed from, even  from the earliest memories was extremely intriguing. Or at least to a psychological mind.

There was a good amount of dysfunction in his home but nothing that wasn’t normal. The boy’s parents were divorced early on in his life, both remarried, and he was shuffled between the two. His father did drugs earlier in his life– and smoked a joint with his son to prove a point. There was the somewhat alternative life that is sometimes connected with California, but like I said, none of this is so outrageously out there to say that any one of these things caused the addiction. It’s impossible to say that anything can in itself cause addiction. There’s the natural predisposition to addiction, which is where, I think, the boy’s father didn’t want to go. He didn’t want to say that his son had an addictive personality or wanted to fit in with a certain group, so he began to do drugs. It’s easier to put the blame on something else, even himself, but who can blame him?

All in all, I do think this was a very compelling memoir. It looked at all faucets of the boy’s addiction aside from his own viewpoints on it. It looked at the father’s history, the boy’s childhood and adolescence, the world around him. What I think I most picked up on, though, was the feeling of love the father had for the son. It wasn’t saccharine or put on, not at all. You felt the love he felt through the memories he brought up, the smile on his face. You also felt his confusion at why this was happening. His anger when things were stolen, broken. His pain at the choices he had to make in order to try to help his son through tough love. The writing was clipped and straightforward, but it still came with all the emotions that such events could carry.

Finally, I really appreciated the fact that there was no ending. There was no tie up  conclusion stating that the son was now better forever and ever. It was real and open to the possibility that he will fall into his addiction again. Oh, and I should mention that the son has out a companion memoir, which I am interested to read. Oh, oh, and I should also also mention that this is a memoir sans disturbing images. FYI. :) .